Top Providers Answer Your Top Questions - Take TWO

You've asked a lot of questions regarding sex work over the past few years and I've tried to get you answers. Today, I’m so grateful that almost thirty of the best of the best in the community signed on to help me.


There were so many amazing providers who volunteered this time around that we split your questions into two separate blog posts - this one and another we did a couple of weeks ago. Here's that link in case you missed it:


https://audreygray.wixsite.com/audrey/post/top-providers-answer-your-top-questions


I’m really excited for you as it’s not typical to get a “behind the curtain” view of our industry. All of these folks are really busy people. For them to take time out of their schedules to help is a big deal.


You'll note many companions opted to remain anonymous. Others allowed me to use their names and links.


Please respect those who allowed me to use their names by not abusing their generosity. In other words? NO, it is NOT okay for you to contact them to ask about their answers here. Do not text them or call them or DM them or, well, you get the idea, right? :) Their answers are self-explanatory and what you read stands as-is.


Thank you for your understanding. :)


If you are a patron and would like to submit additional questions for future posts, please feel free to email me at audreygray@mailfence.com. Providers who'd like to answer questions for future blog posts are invited to email as well.


THANK YOU TO ALL PROVIDERS WHO TOOK THEIR TIME AND GENEROUSLY ANSWERED THE FOLLOWING:


"What is your favorite appointment length and why? How long should a first appointment with a provider be?"


I prefer a 3-4 hour appointment. First because it never feels rushed. Second because you really get to know each other and get comfortable. Third, because you can enjoy each other more than once.

*Holly Davis, https://twitter.com/HollyDavisVIP


Hours are what banks the most.

*Anonymous


My favorite date length is 4-6hours. Granted that we have already seen each other multiple times and have developed a great connection which isn’t uncommon. A first date should be at least 90 minutes, so we can see if there is a connection between us.

*Goddess Malaysia Monroe, https://twitter.com/goddess_monroe1


A first appointment should be between 2 and 5 hours. I give a range because it really depends on the initial communication. How is the rapport in the initial screening? What is the client's comfort level? While I prefer to break bread with my clients; I believe it lends itself to a more well-rounded interaction, I try to be flexible with their needs and/or any time constraints.

*Olivia Twist, https://twitter.com/oliviatwists


My preference for any first date is 2 hours. That way you can relax and get a "feel" of each other and get a sense of how the session will go.

* Nicolet Clark, https://twitter.com/FoxSlver


Whatever you want; I have no preference.

*Anonymous


Prefer hh in NYC because dudes stay 5 min and go.

*Anonymous


My favorite appointment length is anything 3 hours or more. I feel three hours or more is perfect to allow us to work out those jitters and feel more comfortable. It feels unrushed and allows things to happen and progress naturally and more smoothly. As for a client, it depends on what they want in an experience. If they looking for a deeper connection, sensual intimacy, someone to spend quality time with, or tend to need more time to calm nerves and relax, do at least 2-3 hours the first time. If not (by the way, which is okay, too), go for a shorter booking.

*Caris Quinn, allmylinks.com/caris-quinn


My favorite length of time for an appt is 3 hours. It provides me & the client time for a light dinner, drinks & time BCD. For me, a 90 min appt is a good length of time to get to know one another & enjoy one another without rushing the appt

*Miranda the Minx. https://twitter.com/MinxMiranda91


My favourite appointment lengths are always extended. Anything 2 hours or more I enjoy the most, and anything beyond 4-5 hours as long as they remember that I require food. Anyone who knows me has heard me say “I have a really high social quota” so getting to know people beyond just the bedroom is really fulfilling and enjoyable for me! Most of the clients I see for the first time book 1-2 hours which has always been nice. I don’t think it’s possible to really get to know someone in anything less than an hour!

*Charlie Fae, https://twitter.com/cheekychar96


I'm now at the point where if it's not an extended FMTY I am not interested.

*Anonymous


My favorite appointment length is whatever makes sense for the situation. If you are an anxious person or just anxious about meeting - no judgment, by the way - have special physical considerations, are on the autistic spectrum, want something to feel more "real" as opposed to sterile, etc, you need to book enough time for that. An hour won't work. 90 minutes won't work for many. Two hours is great for all of this.


If you're financially able, my favorite is 4 hours to 8 hours. That gives us lots of time to spend together without having too much time together. Yes, I love overnights and even week long affairs, but those are strictly reserved for folks with whom I've established a rapport and trust - and AFTER I know we're compatible for long amounts of time together.


There's also something to be said for having a shorter appointment here and a longer appointment there. Mix it up. Save up for what you like and book. :)

*Audrey Gray, https://twitter.com/gray_service


"Everyone says to do your research on a provider but I don’t know WTF that means. Can you give me some advice?"


To me, that sounds more like review culture, reviews are the view of another suitor. What's good or bad for one, may not be to another. With social media, I think a suitor can see his provider in mind in her own words and deeds.

* Nicolet Clark, https://twitter.com/FoxSlver


This is something I definitely say to a lot of people in my DM’s. The ones who care to learn more I’ve tended to give tips about looking more closely at a provider. Firstly, read the ad again, because she may include links to other ads, socials, reviews, website..etc. These things can help you verify that they are reputable. If they don’t have these in the ad then starting with a simple google search of the name and the city can be helpful. I know that googling my name brings up my AllMyLinks, Twitter, Instagram, and some of my ads. I don’t think I’d put in that much effort if it’s wasn’t something I’m serious about.

*Charlie Fae, https://twitter.com/cheekychar96


Google is your friend. Do a reverse image search and make sure that photo isn't being used under multiple sites with multiple names. It it's to cheap there's a reason so you should know the ballpark numbers for your area. Scroll many ad platforms so that you can get comfortable with the range and what appears to be in each range. Explicit talk is a huge red flag as are porn photos and no boundaries.

*Anonymous


Allot of ladys are utr or not paying for allot of ads. Ads are expensive!!!!! So see if they have sm and check out those sites and see how many followers they have and if there interracting with everybody. Twitter and Instagram and Only Fans are where you can see ladys and see that there legit.

*Anonymous


When researching a provider you need to see what her online presence is. Make sure that the girl you are interested in has ads on a few ad sites, has a social media presence on Twitter, Instagram, etc. Does she have reviews? When you Google her what comes up? Just a few things or many?

*Holly Davis, https://twitter.com/HollyDavisVIP


Reviews are not all they're cracked up to be as so many are fake. I would look for the total package and see what came through. That takes time so don't rush anything. You want to look for ads, reviews, social media, website and more. Does it all seem to be written by the same person? Are they active anywhere? I think consistent activity somewhere is the key.

*Anonymous


I had one gentlemen contact another gent who was on the same review site , that wrote a review about me, to see if "I was all that". I was kind of surprised but then I thought I contact providers to get feedback on gentlemen that are new to me, so why not men checking out providers I hope this answer made sense LOL

*Miranda the Minx. https://twitter.com/MinxMiranda91

*Audrey's note: Miranda brings up an excellent point here! Providers who give and take references ask other providers about you, so you should be allowed to do the same with other patrons! Agreed, Beautiful, agreed!! But . . .

Be very careful before you do this as many providers won't take very kindly to such an approach. They may even believe it to be crossing boundaries. If that's the case, you could actually be blacklisted for this,

So tread lightly. Make sure the provider not only has reviews but markets said reviews. Make sure she gives and takes references. IF both of these situations exist AND you have an excellent, established rapport with the patron you're going to contact, consider doing so. If any of the following doesn't exist? Consider your actions carefully before proceeding.

*Audrey Gray, https://twitter.com/gray_service


Doing your research, means just that. By the way, you don't have to research like you are doing your final thesis of grad school, but if you want to you can. Really, just taking a bit more effort to find out more about a person that you will be spending close intimate time with and a nice chunk of change on. Even just taking an extra 30-60 seconds to reread a provider's ad/ website or to do a google search on said provider can get you a better idea on what type of provider they are and what experience they can provide. It can also tell you the real from the fake. Look for social media, blogs, subscribe to their Onlyfans or NiteFlirt, and sign up for their newsletter. Those are better, more accurate ways get to know a provider instead on solely relying on reviews or review boards.

*Caris Quinn, allmylinks.com/caris-quinn


I’m assuming they mean to actually follow the provider on Twitter and see if she has a social media presence. To make sure the provider is who she claims to be especially since there has been an increase of fake ads everywhere!!!!!!!!!

*Goddess Malaysia Monroe, https://twitter.com/goddess_monroe1


I am not quite sure why men ask this question. Spending time with a provider is an investment in time. Therefore, any investment in time, requires due diligence. My advice to clients is to make sure there is consistency, in all touches of communication - from the ad to the website to the interaction. In the age of a simple Google search of a phone number or name, this should not be difficult.

*Olivia Twist, https://twitter.com/oliviatwists


That means to take your time to read through her entire website, read her likes and interests contained there. Look through her wishlist. Read her tweets, her replies, and check her likes. All of those things will give you a deeper insight into her personality and who she is as an individual aside from her photos. The photos and ads may bring you to her but her overall personality and your time spent with her is what keeps you coming back. Why not put the effort in on the front end to be sure that she is right for you.

*Carrie Hart, https://twitter.com/CarrieHartXO


"I’ve used lots of sites in the past and so many companions seem to be fake. It’s almost as if the sites themselves are posting fake profiles. Can you comment on that? Am I crazy or is this a thing?"


Yes there are some fake profiles on ad sites. It's unfortunate. I would trust TNA, Tryst, PD, Slixa, and Eros, as they verify us with our real world information to advertise. Again, you have to do your research on a provider. Many complaints I see from clients, usually could have been avoided if they did a reverse image search or goggled the provider's name or phone number. We spend a lot of time curating our online presence to show that we are "real' and have built up a reputation as such, too. We will not risk all that we have worked for to scam you or steal from you. I can't retire on your $200 deposit.

It can difficult to differentiate what is or isn't real on some sites. I saw one site that clearly had fake profiles just to make it seem relevant. A seasoned suitor should be able to know the difference (maybe). You're NOT crazy!

* Nicolet Clark, https://twitter.com/FoxSlver


Many agencies use girls' photos on ads and say they are independent. Unfortunately once they arrive they will try to upsell you.

*Holly Davis, https://twitter.com/HollyDavisVIP


Follow the $. Ad sites have to have numbers to get eyeballs. If they don't have enough ads they steal them or make them up.

*Anonymous


YES they scrape our stuff w/o our permission.

*Anonymous

I have not noticed a lot of profiles that seem to be fake to me, but this may have to do with my geographic region. There are some that I have heard of, but not that seems to be in excess.

*Charlie Fae, https://twitter.com/cheekychar96


I know that there is such a thing as bait and switch profiles where “providers” and I use that term loosely, will use photos of other women and when you show up it is absolutely not the same person as the photos. That is why you need to do your own research and be sure that the provider is reputable and has a web presence with multiple photos, etc.

*Carrie Hart, https://twitter.com/CarrieHartXO


I have often wondered about this question. I only belong to 3 websites & one seems like all the girls should be in a Miss Universe contest. Svelte, & absolutely gorgeous. I never see women of this stature walking around Pittsburgh or when I am at my 2nd home in FL.

*Miranda the Minx. https://twitter.com/MinxMiranda91

"What is a good tip for a provider for a session?"


Most women I know do not expect tips and find it a bonus when they receive them. I have received anywhere from $20- up to the amount of the session as a tip. I personally find it very kind when someone brings a gift on my wishlist or a gift card too.

*Carrie Hart, https://twitter.com/CarrieHartXO


Hard to answer, but I'll try. First, tipping should never be expected. The best tip, IMHO, are additional appointments, longer appointments, nice meals or activities with the appointments, etc. In other words, I want to get to know YOU and have your money go to a wonderful experience.


That said, one should keep in mind the level of service when tipping any service worker:


Did your provider spend a lot of time communicating with you via email, DM, etc? Were the communications detailed?

Did you make clothing requests, ask for a late night/early morning/weekend appointment? Did you make special requests of another kind?

Were you rushed out the door or were you given some "grace time"?

Do you want to see this provider again and/or how important is it for you to make a good impression? Do you want to help make sure you go to the top of the list next time?

Did the provider make you feel special in any type of way?

Was it an overly, er, physical appointment?

Was it an appointment where there was a lot of mental and/or emotional involvement?


All of these things are considerations, frankly, and only you can answer them. Some providers would love additional cash while others have a wish list posted. Tips can run the gamut from gift cards to homemade items you know your provider will love - cut flowers from your garden, homemade hot sauce, etc.


I've gotten nothing to thousands, plus gifts. Do you.

* Audrey Gray,


As in money? I would say at least $50 to $200 or more. It depends on how long the date is, too. Gifts are always, great, too. Check out their wishlist before meeting and after, too.

*Caris Quinn, allmylinks.com/caris-quinn Tips. Personally, I never ask. Anything a suitor gives to me over and above my rate is greatly appreciated. Never expected.

* Nicolet Clark, https://twitter.com/FoxSlver


Y'all damm well know you should be tipping at least 50-100 and more if the lady charging lite.

*Anonymous


As much as the gent feels like tipping. Most guys don't feel compelled to tip. When I receive a tip, generally on a $500 evening it is $50...1,000 I usually receive 100.

*Miranda the Minx. https://twitter.com/MinxMiranda91


I don't personally expect them but I have received wine, candies, gift cards, cash, purses, sunglasses, shoes. I am always humbled by them.

*Holly Davis, https://twitter.com/HollyDavisVIP


I feel like tipping is all about the service you get. If you see a provider and she goes above and beyond to make you feel special, you should tip at the very minimum $100

*Goddess Malaysia Monroe, https://twitter.com/goddess_monroe1


I leave this entirely up to the gentleman. Thoughtfulness is what is appreciated. Outside of the correct fee, being engaged and relaxed is what matters most. Of course, I always appreciate it when a client does due diligence from my a website and buys gifts from reading my blog or wish list.

*Olivia Twist, https://twitter.com/oliviatwists


Just don't bring flowers please, they're so indiscrete. We are all sick of candy to.

*Anonymous


I had a guy bring me a used pots and pans set once. Why?? Be intentional.

*Anonymous


"Do you prefer incall or outcall and why?"


I started as a companion who was only offering outcall, and have switched to offering only incall. I go on a very occasional outcall, usually with just trusted clients. I have much preferred incall. Although I spend an intense amount of time cleaning, I have enjoyed not having to commute, or make sure I don’t forget anything before I leave to go to the date. It has made me feel a lot more comfortable to have my own space.

*Charlie Fae, https://twitter.com/cheekychar96


I prefer outcall because I don't have a dedicated incall so it is much easier on my end to just do outcall. Most people I see are visitors so it is not a big deal.

*Holly Davis, https://twitter.com/HollyDavisVIP


I personally prefer incall as I have all of my own things easily available and set up the way I like them.

*Carrie Hart, https://twitter.com/CarrieHartXO


I don't offer incalls, outcalls only. If it's a private residence, I check the location on Maps. A few times I found empty lots. No way!

* Nicolet Clark, https://twitter.com/FoxSlver


I prefer what works best for the situation. If you're in town for a conference, it might be easier if I meet you at your hotel. Then again, if you're at a conference, you may not want to meet at your hotel. *wink* Basically, if you're in from out of town, I'm happy to come to you at your hotel.


If I'm on tour, you need to come to me. I have no time to run around the city for you unless you want to pay for that time, as well as tolls and parking.


If we both live in the same area, I strongly prefer incall for shorter appointments. Too much driving and I appreciate having my things organized around me.

*Audrey Gray, https://twitter.com/gray_service


I mainly host in my apartment in NYC or in a hotel in the suburbs of Boston. I don't really have a preference. If you come to my place in NYC you have more of a peek into my life than if I was meeting you, or you were coming to my hotel. As part of the due diligence and rapport building, it is important to ensure there is connection, confidence and comfort before we even meet. The location is largely irrelevant.

*Olivia Twist, https://twitter.com/oliviatwists


I only offer outcall in Pittsburgh. I prefer incall but I can't accommodate an incall appt in Pgh. When I am at my condo in FL, I am able to entertain which I prefer.

*Miranda the Minx. https://twitter.com/MinxMiranda91


I personally prefer incall, only because I have everything we need in my incall. When I get an outcall request for Nuru, that’s super difficult. So many things go into doing Nuru you can’t exactly bring them all in a small bag.

*Goddess Malaysia Monroe, https://twitter.com/goddess_monroe1


It depends on how long the booking is. For anything 2-4 hours, incall is great. We can share a great meal and have an unrushed relaxed time at my spot.. For longer bookings, I find that outcall works better.

*Caris Quinn, allmylinks.com/caris-quinn



"What’s your favorite food?"


Picking my favorite food, is like picking my favorite kid or lipstick to wear. I would say, cake, only because recently I had an amazing slice of cake and I had full of dopamine for the rest of the evening. It was magical.

*Caris Quinn, allmylinks.com/caris-quinn


I enjoy a variety of food and it depends on my mood that day. I have a deep love for Mediterranean food. I have also been to many Michelin Star restaurants and don’t seem to enjoy them, as they don’t meet my standards ;)

*Carrie Hart, https://twitter.com/CarrieHartXO


Favourite food is a tough question! I find it changes as I try new things. Currently, it is Red Thai Curry.

*Charlie Fae, https://twitter.com/cheekychar96


An unabashed carnivore! I like steaks like prime rib, or ribeyes medium rare. I love seafood too, I haven't had lobster in years. I love raw oysters, it's the only icky thing I'll swallow! With all the trimmings, too. Salad, appetizers, veggies, starches like baked or mashed potatoes or rice pilaf. And a few lemon drop martini's after!

* Nicolet Clark, https://twitter.com/FoxSlver


Seafood, esp sea bass with lump crabmeat & scallops, yummy.

*Miranda the Minx. https://twitter.com/MinxMiranda91


I am a suck for a good steak!

*Holly Davis, https://twitter.com/HollyDavisVIP


I'm a huge foodie. Unless it's lima beans, we're good. :) There isn't a food or cuisine I don't like. Period. Happy to eat at a local hole in the wall - some of my favorites, actually, a good diner or a Michelin-Starred "it" spot. I also, LOVE ethnic foods, so bring on hot pots, injera, sushi, borek, borani kadoo, moussaka, and more.


Audrey Gray, https://twitter.com/gray_service


My favorite food is seafood, preference oysters.

*Goddess Malaysia Monroe, https://twitter.com/goddess_monroe1


This is the toughest question of them all! Let me answer it this way....I enjoy food - cooking it or the restaurant experience. Food is the great equalizer of any social setting.

*Olivia Twist, https://twitter.com/oliviatwists





















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